Compassion for self!

Grow your compassion!

I have been looking for meaning of life. In books I found that ultimate goal of a human life is to serve others, be compassionate. I could never understand this concept as I don't really feel organic compassion towards other beings. I can understand them, even empathize with them but that doesn't necessarily make me take an action for them.

There a few things that you have already known but then comes a day when reality dawns on you. I am not compassionate because my cup is empty. I am in need of love & compassion. Till the time my cup is not full I can't really offer anything to others.To fill my cup I need to be compassionate towards myself first. Thus, comes from the concept of self love. Falling in love with oneself in the beginning of endless romance. I do love myself, I know I do. But how do I really love myself.

I always used to think there is a difference with love and care. For example, my husband believes in care , where you are taking care of a person's everyday need but never really doing grand gestures for them. I on the other hand believe in grand gestures but might not care for a person on a regular basis. My husband calls it a hero complex. I.e. A hero is not one who comes at the last moment and saves the day but a hero is someone who toils everyday in the background so that the day of calamity is always at bay.

I think both of them are heroes in their own right, similar to how care and a grand gesture of love is still love in their own right. Both might be given their due, as both are required. To be really honest though care will definitely always win over a grand gesture. I have finally accepted it now. There is no going away from the daily grind.

Therefore if you want to love yourself, you need to care for yourself, everyday without fail. Just be the Shahrukh of your own movie and that solves most of it.

Compassion for self! by Magicthreadworks